DID YOU / WILL YOU MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND?
My brother fell inlove with his best friend back when he was in his teens, but he never had the chance to tell her how he felt, up to this day. The reason? He was afraid of losing the friendship because he feared the thought: “What if she didn’t have the same feelings for me? Then I would lose her forever…” So he never tried, not then, not ever. One of my girl friends almost lost her sanity when her best friend of 10 years got married to his girlfriend of several months. She thought it wasn’t fair. Sounds like My Best Friend’s Wedding movie huh? But it’s true…However, I married my best friend. It was tough at the beginning, the transition from being best friends to lovers, but it was wonderful having to marry someone you know so well and who knows me really deep too. Our personalities are different – he’s patient and I’m impatient, he probably uses only 10,000 words a day while I use 100,000 =) and he’s a bit passive while I’m active. Oh, our cultures are different too – he’s Chinese and I’m Filipina. In our differences, we compliment each other’s strengths and weaknesses. But we share the same faith and calling which are, for me, very important.
How about you? If you’re already married, did you marry your best bud? If you’re still single, do you think it would be wise to marry your best friend?
A. Yes, marry best friend
B. No, marry someone else
C. Others (pls. specify)
YOU WRITE:
A. Yes, marry best friend
B. No, marry someone else
C. Others (pls. specify)
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November 22nd, 2008
When I married my husband, I didn’t consider him as a best friend. I was in love and in lust with him. And we had a lot in common, or so we thought. Actually, we eventually realized that it was just our love for booze that bound us. Through the years, we discovered we were not so alike after all. In fact, it was a rude awakening to realize how utterly different we were. I’m a night owl; he’s an early morning waker upper. I love books; he’d rather wait for the movie version. He’s practical and a neat-freak; I’m “creative” in organizing and re-organizing my environment – yes, that means I’m a slob. But the funny thing is that the more we differ, the more we get closer. And now, after all those discoveries, he has become my best friend.
It doesn’t matter if you marry your best friend or not. Marry someone you love. Someone whose heart is good. And let God work out the differences for you.
November 22nd, 2008
When I married my husband, I didn’t consider him as a best friend. I was in love and in lust with him. And we had a lot in common, or so we thought. Actually, we eventually realized that it was just our love for booze that bound us. Through the years, we discovered we were not so alike after all. In fact, it was a rude awakening to realize how utterly different we were. I’m a night owl; he’s an early morning waker upper. I love books; he’d rather wait for the movie version. He’s practical and a neat-freak; I’m “creative” in organizing and re-organizing my environment – yes, that means I’m a slob. But the funny thing is that the more we differ, the more we get closer. And now, after all those discoveries, he has become my best friend.
It doesn’t matter if you marry your best friend or not. Marry someone you love. Someone whose heart is good. And let God work out the differences for you.
November 22nd, 2008
well i married my bestfriend…:D
November 22nd, 2008
well i married my bestfriend…:D
November 22nd, 2008
yep! i did! and we still remain the best of friends
November 22nd, 2008
uhh.. i’m not yet still in a marrying age but.. anyway, i just wanna relate. i’m a teen after all.
before i had this guy best friend who had always been my shadow. i learned that he liked me from our other close friends, and i quite sensed it too. but i think it’s a good thing he hesitated to tell me, ’cause he’ll definitely ruin our friendship.
November 22nd, 2008
Telling your best friend how you really feel about him/her is tricky enough. You’d jeapordize the friendship if your friend doesn’t feel the same way about you.
I’d definitely freak out if my best friend were to confess his feelings for me. It’ll make the relationship weird after that.
My answer is: It is a Catch 22.
Don’t tell him and forever hold your peace… get heartbroken when he marries someone else.
Tell him and lose him anyway when he starts freaking out.
And for the rare occasion (yes, I am pessimistic when it comes to relationships) that everything works together… well, hey! Good for you.
November 22nd, 2008
Very much enjoyed your thoughts on this and the photo!
I think it is worth the effort to make the transition and marry your best friend. Passion can be intense but it will burn out eventually and you’ll want a friend!
I did marry my best friend! It is so much more convenient!
November 22nd, 2008
Very much enjoyed your thoughts on this and the photo!
I think it is worth the effort to make the transition and marry your best friend. Passion can be intense but it will burn out eventually and you’ll want a friend!
I did marry my best friend! It is so much more convenient!
November 23rd, 2008
I could have married my best friend, but I missed my chance (even though I had more than one). I regret it sometimes. But if I would have married him today I'd probably be a completely different person, one that I don't think I would like at all.
The man I did marry has become my best friend anyway. I couldn't really ask for more.
<3
November 23rd, 2008
I think my answer is yes. Live and love is two tricky things.
November 23rd, 2008
I think my answer is yes. Live and love is two tricky things.
November 23rd, 2008
No, my best friend is a farmer in central Victoria and a marriage would be both unpleasant and a social embarrassment. That is not to say I don’t love my wife.
November 23rd, 2008
i’m too young to marry but i’ll just answer this. huhu. maybe i’ll marry my best bud. love comes unexpectedly.
November 23rd, 2008
From the moment we frist kissed I knew he was always going to be my lover, my husband, my best friend.
And nothing has ever wavered me in that belief.
November 24th, 2008
i am not sure that we all have the chance to marry our best friend but i do think that the one you marry becomes your best friend!!! if that makes any sense!??!!?
November 24th, 2008
I’m not married, but I think the man you marry should be one of your closest friends, if not the best one (he should definitely be your bets male friend) because if you intend to spend the rest of your life with him, you need to get on well.
November 24th, 2008
I will totally be marrying my best friend. We’ve known each other for over two years. And in so many ways, he has already become my best friend. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Though . . . sometimes it’s not such a blessing in disguise that we know each other so well. ;o)
November 28th, 2008
I won’t be marrying anyone ’cause us dogs don’t do marriage. Mum’s not married to Uncle Hugh but they’ve been together for years and years. Mum says she’s married to him in her head and they are definitely best friends. They don’t really see anyone else that much so I guess they have to be fairly friendly don’t you think?
November 28th, 2008
Of course! Your mate MUST be your beatfriend. Next to The Holy One, the person should be the closet person to you, they mirror your soul. Mark and I were and still are each other’s bestfriend. My husband’s fear was being hurt…not losing my friendship.