Monthly Archives: June 2009

ACTIONS OR WORDS?

Posted on June 26, 2009 by MeiliLo

SHE WRITES: There’s a saying that goes, UNEXPRESSED GRATITUDE IS INGRATITUDE. It doesn’t say though if it has to be verbalized because there are people who are not expressive in their words, but they claim they express gratitude through their actions. However, actions without words may easily be misinterpreted. Same goes with all words and no actions, the recipient of our words may doubt what we’re saying.  So when it comes to expressing, I think it should be both actions + words. I am both – I say it out loud when I’m grateful and I also see to it that actions like hugs or kisses go with my words. My husband is most of the time the action only type. After 5 years of marriage, I finally heard him say (with 2 witnesses) when we were in China that I am not just his better half, I am his perfect half – the perfect fit for him. … Continue reading →

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IS CRYING A SIGN OF WEAKNESS?

Posted on June 18, 2009 by MeiliLo

SHE WRITES: I don’t know if you’re familiar with the song Boys Don’t Cry, but I am. Growing up I always wondered why it’s such a big deal for boys (big ones because little boys DO cry if they need to) admitting that they cried over something or someone. What’s more surprising though is that some people (including women) find it a sign of weakness when they cry.  But not for me… Personally, I think crying is my way of unloading my burdens and after that, there’s a certain relief and I DO feel better. I can say I’m stronger after hundreds or thousands of tears had been released. Well, aside from the fact that I consider myself a cry baby, crying is really an outlet for me when I’m hurt or when I’m down. I cry if I need to or if I want to. However, I always choose to dry my tears, get on with life and … Continue reading →

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